Monday, October 22, 2007
Would someone help me please?
There just doesn't seem to be enough time in day to do all that seems necessary. I do a few errands a week for folks that can't get out, I help out by cleaning a few houses, when I really should be cleaning my own! And I just accepted a position at the school for after school care. And then I think, its all I can do to get the kids baths and homework in the evenings along with cooking dinner, doing dishes and laundry. Then I feel the pressure to put my kids into cheerleading, basketball, football or whatever.... Are we really missing out on the good things in life by not planning and adding to our daily schedules, or are we missing out by not doing more? What's your opinion? If I didn't have so much to do right now, I might sit down and figure it out for myself!
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Wow, how I know what you're feeling!!
I got to your site from someone else's site. So, no you don't know me, but I will give you an opinion. :-)
I think that having too many things going on for the kids is bad for your family life and spiritual life. If every moment is taken up, you have no time to just
sit and think. I also think it contributes to hyperactivity, as we teach them not to sit still, but to always be doing something. I have a friend who thinks it is good to let your kids be bored. I tend to agree. When we have been doing construction work, and my husband makes the kids come even if they aren't working, they have been creative and built things during their "bordom" time!!
We home school, but have a very active home school group. I just can't do all the stuff they want to do. There are just so many things begging for our time and attention. I say one activity for a child is plenty. They need time to just be kids and enjoy life, before it becomes necessary for them to be busy a lot.
Just my ideas. :-)
I like what Judith said. :-) I have turned down 2 things lately myself(even though I thought they might bring in a little extra money)because I didn't want our family life to suffer. I know myself... and I know that I personally can't handle too much on my plate. One of my aunts absolutely loves being extremely busy and considers it their way of doing things for their kids (sports, boy scouts, etc). I, on the other hand, feel that quality unrushed family time at home is best for our family. I think if I blink, I might miss something. And too, you have to stop comparing yourself with these other "super-moms" who "do it all". They are probably STRESSED OUT "supermoms"! And their kids are probably being snapped at all the time too because they are overstressed and tired. I think it's a matter of stepping back and saying "how is this going to affect my family life?" And how is this going to affect my blogging? ha ha ha... because we can't have you not updating your blog. LOL
hmmmmmm...I have not put my kids into any extra curricular activity yet....like football or cheerleading. I am not sure yet what I will do. I am kind of waiting for them to tell me that they want to join a team, I hate seeing kids into all these sports when really it is the parents who are pushing it. Wishing you luck Lisa!!!
We are getting to this point in life, as well. I detest these parents that can't ever do anything because, "Oh, we have soccer that morning," or "We'll be there after tumbling classes, etc." I think sometimes parents feel that it puts them in a higher class when their kids are involved in everything. I regret not having each of my boys in beginner music right now because I know it is something they probably won't want to do as teens, yet it is a gift they could use the rest of their lives. We plan on starting either piano, violin, or guitar after the first of the year. It seems like whenever too many things come into our lives we begin by cutting the things that are the most important, such as church, personal devotions, and genuine family time. Although we are all busy and that won't change anytime soon, we have to learn to do the things that are most necessary for the well-being of our family and cut the things that are superficial and unnecessary. This is difficult, and might cause us to feel we are letting someone down, but once we are able to control our commitments, rather than them controlling us, we will begin to feel fulfilled in our role as wife and mother.
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